Imago Relationship Therapy

Imago Relationship Therapy (IRT) is based on the practices and principles developed by Harville Hendrix, PhD, and described in the bestselling book "Getting the Love You Want".  One of the underlying principles is that romantic attraction is based on unconscious forces that bring us together with someone that we will later have conflict and power struggles with.  So according to this approach, conflict is a normal occurrence within our committed relationships and we can use our relationship to help us to grow and to heal from past "wounds" or unmet needs.

The conflict and power struggles that couples find themselves in is fueled by unconscious forces.  However, when we become more aware of how attraction works and what unmet needs from the past we are wanting our partners to fulfill, then the relationship can become more "conscious" and partners can respond to each other in more compassionate and loving ways.  If the unconscious patterns continue and we don't become more aware of what's fueling them, we will continue to "re-wound" our partner in the same way they may have felt wounded in childhood.

The skills learned and practiced in IRT will help you better understand the conflicts in your marriage or relationships, so that you can stop blaming, criticizing and attacking one another and begin relating in ways that will maintain and deepen your connection.  When there is conflict in a marriage or relationship, the partners often feel it is not the right partner or even that they need to leave the relationship, rather than it being an opportunity for both parties to grow and heal.  We as Imago Therapists believe it is the latter!

Imago Therapy very deliberately avoids the idea of blame, or who is right or wrong.  A basic tenet of this approach is that both partners' viewpoints are just as valid, given the other's experiences, background, personality, stressors. etc.  One of my favorite things that I've heard Harville Hendrix say is "there are two people in this relationship and one of them isn't you".  So if you're tired of having the same conflict over and over or feeling blamed, this type of couples therapy may be right for you.

By learning the dialogue process, you will be more able to stay in your "rational" brain and listen to your partner without being so reactive.  When you can listen to your partner in a way that makes them feel you really "got" what they are saying, then they will be more willing and able to listen to your viewpoint as well.  Imago Therapy can also help individuals look at one's background to understand why they keep choosing the same type of unsatisfying relationships.  Again, it is not about blaming anyone in your past, but helping you to recognize and change your patterns in your marriage or relationships.  

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Monday:

9:00 am-6:00 pm

Tuesday:

9:00 am-6:00 pm

Wednesday:

9:00 am-6:00 pm

Thursday:

9:00 am-6:00 pm

Friday:

Closed

Saturday:

Closed

Sunday:

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